All genders have complained about the unequivocal fact that other human beings are just so damn complicated to figure out. Hey, it’s true, females aren’t the only crazy/weird/irrational ones here!
The truth is, we’ve all been manipulative – giving just enough attention to keep them on a string, a backup for selfish nights when we need attention. But if we’ve all done it, why is it so hard for us to realize they’re using the same tricks we’ve been using on others for years!?
Because deep down we’re all naïve and with love comes hope. Hope for a better future, a better partner; an ideal that could be.
Here’s how to break away from the fantasy: Stop worrying and grasping for a future that doesn’t yet exist! Stop with the “what ifs” because you’re wasting your time on a future that isn’t real. Focus on the present because there’s nothing more real than now.
One you can do that, you’ll realize the bullshit that’s going on. She’s flaky, unreliable and never texts you first. Sounds like a pretty bad future girlfriend don’t you think? If there’s one thing I’ve learned from dating and relationships, it’s that people’s flaws only get worse over time. They aren’t necessarily deal breakers and some are easier to fix than others, but someone who doesn’t respect you from the start never will. And trust me, a girl who doesn’t give you the time of day does not respect you. No excuses.
You deserve way better! You’ve probably heard this a billion times, but it’s because it is so so so true. Once you stop wasting your time on the bad apples, you’ll finally be able to find someone deserving of your love. However, you must first stop texting those manipulative bitches who are never upfront with you about their feelings and what they really want (which is, never being in a relationship with you), and woe the girl of your dreams who’s just waiting for someone as nice as you to sweep her off her feet.
You don’t need to be on the defensive and analyze every single word she says to know whether she’s really into you or not. Because deep down, you’ll know. Intuitions are never wrong. And hopefully you have good friends around you who can snap you out of it and give you a reality check. Listen to them! They mean well and you’re lucky to have friends who can be honest with you.
On that note, this applies to girls being played by men as well. Because screw the double standard, both genders (and beyond) are as crappy as the other when they want to. So look out for the signs and follow your intuition, don’t waver and do others a favour by not stringing them along either.
That girl friend giving you a reality check.
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